Posted in Helping Hands

6 Ways you can help someone with Anxiety/Depression?

attentive-listening-dogYou can assist and perhaps even inspire others simply by being present and listening to what they are saying as well as what is not being said. Being an attentive listener while maintaining an open mind is helpful to someone experiencing anxiety/depression.

As someone who has suffered with anxiety/depression, I know the healing power of compassion and attentive listening. Sometimes listening is all someone needs to gain clarity needed to create positive change in their life.

 

Here are six (6) ways you can genuinely help someone work through anxiety/depression.

  1. Let your them know you are willing to listen to how they feel.
  2. Give your unconditional encouragement and support; compassion and attention.
  3. Remember their truth is just that…THEIR TRUTH. You may not agree with their choices but always respect them.
  4. Offer advice only if they ask for it. If they are not open to receiving your wisdom, you may make them feel worse about what they are going through.
  5. Never, I repeat never tell anyone “just get over it”; those words are so disrespectful! Just because you are not experiencing what they are or may handle things differently does not mean what they are feeling should be minimized.
  6. Most importantly, be honest with them if you feel like professional help is required to help them turn things around.

 

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It’s not your responsibility to “save” anyone but isn’t it part of the human experience to at least try? How do YOU offer help to someone dealing with anxiety/depression?

Share your methods; together we can help more and more people chose the option to live.

Cheers to lending a helping hand…

 

 

As always, Love, Peace & Blessings…

Posted in Inspiration

Chance Encounter or Life Lesson?

Dearest Beautiful Spirits,

I met someone yesterday who listened and shared themselves with me. Until then I had not realized just how much I needed that sort of connection with someone. I often hide myself from others because my beliefs and the way I “do” things are usually different from the “norm” (whatever that is, *chuckles*). It seems easier to be a lone wolf than to continuously subject myself to the questioning stares of others. Yet as a human being, I understand we are not meant to walk alone.

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I don’t usually attach labels to myself, but I’m definitely an introvert! *chuckles* Besides being hurt by people I’ve trusted, it’s just never been easy for me to open up and share myself with others. I enjoy 1-on-1 interactions that offer deep exchange of ideas, thoughts and feelings but social settings in general…are not my thing! *chuckles*

My “yesterday companion” seemed kind and right away I was drawn to their energy as they were to mine. What began as a simple question, “Excuse me, do you know what time the bookstore closes?” turned into hours of satisfying conversation and we even threw in a meal. *chuckles* This was such a new experience for me; I was enamored by their seemingly genuine interest and understanding. I also enjoyed learning how they see the world and process knowledge.

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Needless to say, as an introvert, I was extremely exhausted after our encounter; I came home and crashed shortly thereafter. I plan to spend today on my own because I am still recovering…

Have you had any similar experiences? While you were reading, were you shaking your head and smiling because you imagined exactly how my yesterday unfolded?

I’m sharing with you today because no matter what you’ve been through, no matter how anyone else perceives you, the greatest gift/honor to bestow upon yourself is to always be exactly who you are; without exception. Here’s the quick take-away:

  • Don’t force yourself to fit a description someone else has created for you.
  • Don’t hide who you are for the sake of avoiding potential conflict.
  • Don’t’ ever believe that you are meant to walk alone; the one created to walk with you will become present when you are truly ready to appreciate their role in your life.
  • Don’t take yourself seriously…EmbraceYourFlow

 

I’d love to hear about your Chance Encounters or Life Lessons. It’s always a blessing to learn the stories of others; it helps us put our own stories into perspective…

As always wishing you great Love, Peace & Blessings

Posted in EmbraceYourFlow

Where do you find your strength, peace?

“Find your strength within your peace, your peace within your strength. Both embedded within your soul; the very essence of who you are.” ~SereneNSassySoul

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It’s worth it all to be who you are, always, no matter what. Who you are is all you truly have.

On this Thankful Tuesday, I say to you…

You are stronger than you’ve ever given yourself credit for however, strength without balance of peace is irrelevant. Also, peace without balance of strength is impotent.

Wholeness depends upon you tending to the health of your mind, body, soul, heart. Allowing yourself to feel what must be felt; (not in an emotional sense) simply allowing all of you to process what is and adjusting accordingly. Releasing what does not help you move forward; being aware of what propels you forward.

It’s all about the ebb and flow of your strength and peace; balance that you cannot force but comes to you when you allow yourself to be who you are.

Be thankful your strength has gotten you this far, now rely on your peace to keep moving forward. All the while being mindful to, EmbraceYourFlow…

 

Love, Peace & Blessings Beautiful Spirits,

SereneNSassySoul

Posted in Helping Hands

Save Your Loved Ones…OPTIONS

This weekend, someone I care about became so overwhelmed dealing with her pain on her own that she decided her only OPTION was to leave this world. She was a Beautiful Spirit; her energy comforting and inspiring. She apparently was an expert hiding her pain because everyone that knew her said she was “happy” and “full of life”. According to everyone there was no indication that she was experiencing internal chaos to the point of no return.

I had not seen her in a few weeks and the last time I saw her she did seem content. At the time of our last connection, I was experiencing my own internal chaos so perhaps I was not as tuned in as I normally am. My grief now with her passing is that I wish someone, if not me could have shown her another OPTION to managing her pain.

I’m always asking everyone to pay attention to loved ones; listen to them and never dismiss their feelings. How you may deal with an issue is not how someone else may be able to; respect their feelings even if you don’t understand them and NEVER, I mean NEVER tell someone to “just get over it and move on”.

In light of this situation, I am wondering how in-tuned with someone you can be if you are experiencing your own issues at the same time. I can remember thinking of this young women and feeling her internal conflict between the choices she had made; some she was not proud of but doing everything she could to make better choices and move forward. She worried constantly (mostly because of religious teachings) that she may never “be right” with God because of past indiscretions. It was difficult because of the people around her and their teachings, to believe God loved her no matter what, God knew her heart was kind and God understood she was trying to make a better life for herself.

options1I think now of the person who told me that contrary to what I believe, everyone does not need support and encouragement to thrive in this world. I respect her perspective but I firmly believe that everyone thrives with support and encouragement; now even more now than ever. I believe we all need someone to listen, I mean really listen; sometimes advise or offer counsel. We were not created to navigate this world alone. We need to know that we are not the only ones experiencing what conflict there may be. While no one else can validate our feelings, it helps to know that you are not alone and it helps to know there are OPTIONS…even when you feel hopeless, there are OPTIONS. Having support, being encouraged helps you access a place within you to create the OPTIONS that will help you get through any internal chaos you may experience.

Again, I wish someone including myself could have helped my young friend access her OPTIONS to escape the pain she was feeling. The feeling in my heart center is not just about her leaving this world, it’s also about the way she decided to leave…the cold and lonely journey she took to leave. I wish she wasn’t alone, I wish she wasn’t dragged down by darkness, I wish she knew how loved she was…is. Perhaps I should have told her how inspiring she was; how her smile and infectious laugh made the dimmest of days bright. Perhaps I should have reminded her of how encouraging her counsel was because you could always feel it coming from her heart; no judgement present.

helping-hand-emotionalNow more than ever I just feel that even when someone pushes us away, we can’t just let them be! I remember being so depressed years ago and not speaking to anyone except during work hours, my Mom would just keep leaving me messages, “I love you and I am here whenever you are ready to let me be.” At the time my internal chaos was so strong there was nothing anyone could say or do to help me, but those messages gave me an OPTION…to keep waking up each day until I could figure how to help myself. You never know how listening or perhaps lending words of kindness can truly be enough to help give someone light through their darkness.

Let’s make a pact to not be consumed by the fear, tragedy and sadness surrounding us in the world today. Let’s work together to create OPTIONS! Lend someone your words of kindness; inspire someone with your actions. Help someone find the strength they need to keep moving forward even when they feel hopeless. No act of kindness is too small.

A couple years ago, a woman in front of me at the Dunkin Donuts drive thru paid for my order without requiring recognition or thank you from me… During that time, I was struggling financially and I knew it was a blessing; it was my light during the darkness I was experiencing. So without much consideration, I used the money I set aside for my breakfast for the person behind me as a way to pay forward the kindness shown to me.

Do what you can and KNOW that it’s enough. Don’t let someone suffer alone; put your hand out and give them a boost up…help them access their OPTIONS. OPTIONS apply to Men and Women. Do NOT assume because physically Men are stronger (in most cases) that they don’t need someone to help them access their OPTIONS!

I’m sending you all the Love and Light I can without depleting my own at this time.

May your outlook be bright and may you always remember you have OPTIONS.

Love, Peace & Blessings…

Ayana Theresa