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Your words stirred my soul; now they don’t affect me at all

Your spirit warmed my heart; now I feel nothing

Your voice made me smile; now it annoys me

Your ideas were profound; now they don’t have meaning

Your inner beauty was intensely alluring; now it’s nonexistent

Your physical beauty was astounding; now it’s merely average

I thought you were exceptional but you’ve turned out to be rather ordinary.

SNSTip Everyone is average until their actions prove otherwise. Open yourself when your intuition instructs you to do so but not a minute before.


Posted in Spilled Thoughts

LADIES, Who do YOU Really Want?

Your words describe who you want to be and/or what you are willing to do to get what you want.

Your actions describe exactly who you are and/or what other’s expectations of you will be.

Ladies, you are always proclaiming to want a “good” man but the description of him is limited or morphs depending on who you meet and what you are willing to settle for. What is your definition of a “good” man?

MY core definition is: honest, loyal, thoughtful, good listener, ambitious, hygienically sound, easy on the eyes, a “REAL” father if he has children and a creative lover. I will not waive one element listed in MY core definition of a “good” man because each element is vital if we are going to build a lasting and loving relationship.

MY extras are elements I would like a “good” man to possess but they are not critical factors when determining if I should get to know him or let him walk on by: at least 6”3, deep chocolate skin, athletic, loves football, good cook, a great ear for music and mother who lives out of state (LOL…no seriously!). The aforementioned elements are not critical to building a lasting and loving relationship.

Ladies, it’s not enough to want a “good” man YOU must decide once and for all what YOUR definition of a good man actually means encompasses. I’ve heard women state, “He’s a great guy but he’s too nice.” What the hell does that mean? How can you be too nice? Are you really saying, “He’s too soft and almost never stands up for himself.” Or perhaps “He doesn’t look good enough to make the cut?” YOU have a right to YOUR own definition of a good man but figure out what that is and stick to it! Don’t change the description to accommodate some dude you met that doesn’t fit YOUR core definition; the elements most important to YOU. Don’t panic; don’t settle!

I honestly declare there are great men amongst the reptiles; YOU just have to open your eyes and truly understand the difference between YOUR needs (core elements) and wants (extra elements). Open YOUR eyes, decide with YOUR mind and when it’s safe, feel with YOUR heart.


Let love in one day at a time; don’t force it.

When love is right, it will be the most natural feeling; a great feeling.

Love feels like warm rays of sun on an otherwise frigid winter day.

Love is uplifting, loyal, thoughtful, and passionate.

Love will comfort, inspire and nurture you.

Don’t you owe it to your heart to give love a chance?

~SNS~ 2011