Dearest Beautiful Spirits,
I realize that as humans, our behaviors are mostly indicative of what we’ve been taught by others, but at some point you must begin thinking for yourself and establish your own belief system, values and morals. With that said, please understand it’s unfair to impose your beliefs and/or expectations on others no matter who they are. Children deserve an opportunity to formulate their own beliefs, values, thoughts, and opinions despite whether or not you were afforded an opportunity to do so when you were being raised. BREAK THE CYCLE!
Just like adults, children need to awaken each New Day with purpose; children need to know they matter. Children need to know they can accomplish anything they are determined to accomplish. Children need to be nurtured, loved and supported despite your personal beliefs about their choices/decisions; despite how you may have been raised. Keep in mind this does not mean you should allow them to run wild and not be mindful of things that may cause harm. Allowing your children to experience the world in a way that feels right for them is essential for them to grow into balanced and productive beings.
It is NOT up to you to decide what your children can or cannot accomplish. If your child wants to be a ballerina and you have no idea how this can actually happen, start researching to begin your child’s journey towards being a ballerina. Your children may switch passions regularly until they find something they are willing to stick with, just support them along their journey of exploration.
You’d be surprised how amazing your children will feel and how far they will go when you give them simple freedom of making their own choices while offering your unconditional love and support. Without this, your child may struggle with self-esteem issues and may settle for a life less than what the Universe has intended; likely spending their adult years trying to rid themselves of emotional distress.
If your parents were not able to offer you unconditional support to assist you with accomplishing your goals, it doesn’t mean that you must do the same with your children. Show interest in things they enjoy doing (yes, even if it’s not interesting to you). Listen to your children, pay attention to what they do and be mindful of people they label as their friends.
If you feel as though your parents did not offer you unconditional love and support, chances are they were unable to because of how they were raised. Accept that your parents did the best they could, then work on healing and releasing how you feel about this so you can BREAK THE CYCLE.
Healing yourself allows you to be a better, more involved, more intuitive parent and your children will feel safe and supported enough to come to you with anything they may face. If you leave it up to ‘the world’ to teach and/or support them, you will fail your children and yourself.
As always I welcome you to share your thoughts, feelings, opinions, experiences as this post is based upon My truth and My experience; you will apply your own accordingly to figure out what work best for you and your children.
Wishing you Love, Peace & Blessings…