Things people say and what they sometimes actually mean, albeit most times unintentionally…
Be strong, be courageous, speak your mind, don’t take crap from anyone…just don’t be this way with me.
Learn to say no and always put your needs first…just don’t be this way with me.
Be all you can be, never stop chasing your dreams…just don’t surpass where I am in my life.
I love and accept you just as you are…just maybe change this or that; just as long as you do things MY way.
Always keep it real no matter what…just as long as what you say or do doesn’t make me uncomfortable.
I’ve always got your back…just as long as someone doesn’t offer me a better deal.
Honor yourself always and pay attention to what you feel…just get over it already and deal with it; life is hard!
Sure you should have others friends that share your interests, I’m not jealous…just as long as when I call for you you come running.
I’m not in competition with you at all, you are my friend…just as long as I don’t see a chance to shine and leave you in the dust!
You are free to do as you please, live your life…just as long as you allow me to control the parts I want to.
There’s no way you can actually make that work…I live my life full of fear, how dare you be brave trying to achieve your goals.
I remember spending so much time seeking approval from various people in my life, yet wondering why it seemed as though I needed to constantly prove myself to have their love. I lost so much of myself at one point, looking in the mirror staring at a stranger. Always trying to please those whose approval I wanted, thought I needed. Always trying to be the obedient and loyal daughter, employee, girlfriend/wife…
Although I’ve always walked to the beat of my own drum, I craved acceptance from people I loved; at the very least for them to love and accept me same as I felt for them. I realize they all loved me as best as they could. People often don’t realize how their words/actions may adversely affect someone whether intentional or not. Replacing judgement and/or a need to control with mindfulness when connecting with others will go a long way with improving communication within any relationship.
Approval of anyone outside of yourself should never be necessary for your to make your own choices. Honor yourself always by trusting what you feel about a situation/person and make your choice based on this not what someone else may think; no matter who the person is. You are NOT your mother or father, sister or brother… therefore you are not required to make the decisions they would make.
I always hear the term “follow your heart”… it’s usually spoken by people who are successful in their chosen profession, relationships, spiritual, personal self etc. and it used to aggravate me until now…
Now, at this very moment I understand the benefits of following your heart. Your heart is your truest, highest self. It’s the part of you that you’ve pushed away and perhaps buried because of life experienced that were uncomfortable. It’s the part you used to consult before you did anything when you were a child. It’s the part of you that always knows what and who is best for you. It’s your compass and it’s your guru; the part of you that contains all of the answers you need.
My Dear, the answers you seek, the answers you need are only contained within you, never outside of you. Others can offer tidbits, maybe even a starting point for you but you must go deep within to access the answers that will assist with living the life you were created to live.
Today I don’t rely on what others think or any unsolicited advice they may give unless it resonates with me (which for me means it comes from a higher Source). I don’t wait for approval from anyone before I make a decision about MY life. I don’t allow what people say about me affect who I am. The only person that stands in my way or prevents me from doing anything is me… I am the only challenge I face from time to time; even facing myself is becoming easier each day.
Wishing you all great Love, Peace & Blessings…