Posted in Inspirational Flow, Spilled Thoughts

Words of Wisdom 02/13/2018

Good New Day Beautiful Spirits!

This week’s Words of Wisdom is a quote submitted to me and it sure was right on time!

“Live your life without buts!” ~Olivia Smalls

Ms. Smalls’ quote reminds us that we are more than capable of creating and maintaining a life we truly enjoy.

A meaningful life by our own standards if we simply…

Stop making excuses.

Stop hesitating because of this or that.

Stop being afraid of what happens if this time doesn’t work out.

Stop awaiting support and validation from others.

Stop believing we may not be worthy of the life we want.

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Let’s find out what happens when we…

Stop trying and simply take action…DO!

Be open to changing direction midway if necessary; quitting is NOT an option!

Leave past experiences behind us; this time IS different; we’ve grown so much since then.

Be our very own cheerleader!

Trust ourselves to get it done.

We are worthy of beautiful life experiences. Contrary to what “they” say, life is NOT meant to be difficult.

 

As always, sending you great Love, Peace & Blessings…

©2018 SereneNSassySoul 

Posted in Perspectives

Selfish or Misunderstood

So I wonder…

Is it possible to teach someone who is used to being selfish, how to be considerate of others? Whether they are seemingly selfish because they had to grab what they could get growing up because they several brothers and sisters and financially the family struggled. Perhaps they have been overlooked too often and they’ve taught themselves how to make sure they get what they need and not consider others. Maybe, just maybe they seem selfish because they are always afraid of not having enough; this is a real illness you know, FEAR OF LACK.

Whatever the reason, there are some folks who lack the ability balance their needs along with considering needs of others. During an in-office holiday celebration today, there were people who did not get to enjoy the delicious food that was provided because some of the staff helped themselves to heaping plates; yes plates as in more than one! I watched in amazement because it seems like common sense and courtesy to me to take a bit to make sure everyone receives the blessing our Employer generously offered to us. Apparently common sense is not so common these days! *chuckles*

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Is it possible to teach an office full of people the value in being considerate, compassionate, and to also practice the art of camaraderie? To show support for one another, to inspire and encourage? To work as a team in the truest sense of the word? To teach instead of belittle; to learn instead of turning away from challenges?

Is it possible to create a work culture fostering a thriving, energetic environment we can all benefit from?

I will ponder…hoping to come up with a “cure” to what ails the office and its inhabitants.

Sending you wishes of great Love, Peace and many Blessings…

Smooches

 

Posted in Spilled Thoughts

Save Your Loved Ones…OPTIONS

This weekend, someone I care about became so overwhelmed dealing with her pain on her own that she decided her only OPTION was to leave this world. She was a Beautiful Spirit; her energy comforting and inspiring. She apparently was an expert hiding her pain because everyone that knew her said she was “happy” and “full of life”. According to everyone there was no indication that she was experiencing internal chaos to the point of no return.

I had not seen her in a few weeks and the last time I saw her she did seem content. At the time of our last connection, I was experiencing my own internal chaos so perhaps I was not as tuned in as I normally am. My grief now with her passing is that I wish someone, if not me could have shown her another OPTION to managing her pain.

I’m always asking everyone to pay attention to loved ones; listen to them and never dismiss their feelings. How you may deal with an issue is not how someone else may be able to; respect their feelings even if you don’t understand them and NEVER, I mean NEVER tell someone to “just get over it and move on”.

In light of this situation, I am wondering how in-tuned with someone you can be if you are experiencing your own issues at the same time. I can remember thinking of this young women and feeling her internal conflict between the choices she had made; some she was not proud of but doing everything she could to make better choices and move forward. She worried constantly (mostly because of religious teachings) that she may never “be right” with God because of past indiscretions. It was difficult because of the people around her and their teachings, to believe God loved her no matter what, God knew her heart was kind and God understood she was trying to make a better life for herself.

options1I think now of the person who told me that contrary to what I believe, everyone does not need support and encouragement to thrive in this world. I respect her perspective but I firmly believe that everyone thrives with support and encouragement; now even more now than ever. I believe we all need someone to listen, I mean really listen; sometimes advise or offer counsel. We were not created to navigate this world alone. We need to know that we are not the only ones experiencing what conflict there may be. While no one else can validate our feelings, it helps to know that you are not alone and it helps to know there are OPTIONS…even when you feel hopeless, there are OPTIONS. Having support, being encouraged helps you access a place within you to create the OPTIONS that will help you get through any internal chaos you may experience.

Again, I wish someone including myself could have helped my young friend access her OPTIONS to escape the pain she was feeling. The feeling in my heart center is not just about her leaving this world, it’s also about the way she decided to leave…the cold and lonely journey she took to leave. I wish she wasn’t alone, I wish she wasn’t dragged down by darkness, I wish she knew how loved she was…is. Perhaps I should have told her how inspiring she was; how her smile and infectious laugh made the dimmest of days bright. Perhaps I should have reminded her of how encouraging her counsel was because you could always feel it coming from her heart; no judgement present.

helping-hand-emotionalNow more than ever I just feel that even when someone pushes us away, we can’t just let them be! I remember being so depressed years ago and not speaking to anyone except during work hours, my Mom would just keep leaving me messages, “I love you and I am here whenever you are ready to let me be.” At the time my internal chaos was so strong there was nothing anyone could say or do to help me, but those messages gave me an OPTION…to keep waking up each day until I could figure how to help myself. You never know how listening or perhaps lending words of kindness can truly be enough to help give someone light through their darkness.

Let’s make a pact to not be consumed by the fear, tragedy and sadness surrounding us in the world today. Let’s work together to create OPTIONS! Lend someone your words of kindness; inspire someone with your actions. Help someone find the strength they need to keep moving forward even when they feel hopeless. No act of kindness is too small.

A couple years ago, a woman in front of me at the Dunkin Donuts drive thru paid for my order without requiring recognition or thank you from me… During that time, I was struggling financially and I knew it was a blessing; it was my light during the darkness I was experiencing. So without much consideration, I used the money I set aside for my breakfast for the person behind me as a way to pay forward the kindness shown to me.

Do what you can and KNOW that it’s enough. Don’t let someone suffer alone; put your hand out and give them a boost up…help them access their OPTIONS. OPTIONS apply to Men and Women. Do NOT assume because physically Men are stronger (in most cases) that they don’t need someone to help them access their OPTIONS!

I’m sending you all the Love and Light I can without depleting my own at this time.

May your outlook be bright and may you always remember you have OPTIONS.

Love, Peace & Blessings…

Posted in Spilled Thoughts

Sisterhood…Inspired

Here is a piece created within 20 minutes of a request to participate in a project with an Artist whose work I treasure (not sure what name he’s using as of today LOL). He decided to go in a different direction with the project but I am hoping my words will create a trend of sisterhood which seems absent from our culture…

sisterhood2We Are…Women

We feel deeply

We love unconditionally

We are strong

We are determined

We are mothers, daughters, sisters, wives and friends

We are uniquely beautiful inside and out

We laugh; we cry; we love; we hate

We are loyal; we are proud; we are selfless

We have brilliant minds

We have many talents

We command respect

sisterhood1My Sister…

If you feel beaten down, I will lift you up

If you feel like giving up, I will give you hope

If you need comfort, I will reignite your spirit with my warm embrace

If you need someone to listen, I will do so attentively

If you are ready to share your greatness, I will support you completely

If someone tries to hurt you, I will protect you fiercely

If you don’t believe you are magnificent, I will continue to show you until you do