All posts tagged: Kindness

MAKE SPACE!

Often, we hope and wish for our lives to change without doing what’s required to create and allow change. We seldom realize that we are preventing the change we need and want from actually happening; there is work to be done. We push aside disappointment, anger and deeply buried pain to survive, without healing from whatever almost broke us. We use trauma as a means of protecting ourselves from being hurt again; at least not in the same way. Moving on without healing creates a recurring cycle of reliving the pain through many different forms (ex. attracting emotional unavailable partners, unfulfilling jobs, beginning self-sabotaging habits etc.). A few years ago, I experienced an intense cycle of pain that caused a deep ache in my chest and stopped me in my tracks for a while. Shortly after this experience, a friend looked into my eyes and asked, “Have you ever forgiven those who have hurt you?” I answered truthfully, “No!” I always imagined forgiveness meant excusing the offender’s behavior and I was not willing to do …

Save Your Loved Ones…OPTIONS

This weekend, someone I care about became so overwhelmed dealing with her pain on her own that she decided her only OPTION was to leave this world. She was a Beautiful Spirit; her energy comforting and inspiring. She apparently was an expert hiding her pain because everyone that knew her said she was “happy” and “full of life”. According to everyone there was no indication that she was experiencing internal chaos to the point of no return. I had not seen her in a few weeks and the last time I saw her she did seem content. At the time of our last connection, I was experiencing my own internal chaos so perhaps I was not as tuned in as I normally am. My grief now with her passing is that I wish someone, if not me could have shown her another OPTION to managing her pain. I’m always asking everyone to pay attention to loved ones; listen to them and never dismiss their feelings. How you may deal with an issue is not how …

Gratitude for Seniors-Elders

To the Senior/Elder population that sometimes becomes neglected… To Ms Barbara (who may never read this but I want to celebrate her anyway) I am so grateful for your kindness and compassion. Although I wish she wasn’t still in the workforce, I’m grateful for the opportunity to know and love her. More importantly, as much as she still has going on in her life, she takes time to make sure that I’m ok. Yesterday she stayed around and gave me a jump because my car battery died. In the rain with no questions asked she simply offer to help me and took charge of the situation (no room for me to say no LoL). Once my care was “alive”again she hung around to make sure I was ok to drive off. Today, as soon as she arrived, she checked in with me to make sure I was ok and that my car was ok. She is amazing and it troubles me that others don’t seem to have much patience with her or do what they can to …